Saturday, December 31, 2005

Just another day ..

... in paradise ... oops that's the song. Anyhoo with all the cacophony around us about the new year and the old year. Seems like every columnist, magazine, newspaper ... that is worth a mention had a top 10/25 list of things gone by. So that makes a list by me kind of redundant. But it did get me thinking about this New Year "stuff" and gave me the million dollar question of who created New Years day???? Beats me

By the way if you are wondering about the picture, its Mukhtaran Mai. The post on this one pictures has got more hits to my website than anybody else this past year!! Her fight still continues. Nobody said its easy to take on the establishment.

So instead of making list like everybody else is doing, I am going to introduce a new writing partner for this blog. Introducing CrackerJack (The Identity has been withheld per request!) . I and CrackerJack have a difference of opinion on quite a few subjects. Also I presume that quite a few of you are sick of seeing one side of the coin through my ramblings! I had hoped to change the format of the blog but I guess that has to wait for another day.

See you all next year folks and I'll let CrackerJack start off the year.


Ring out the old, ring in the new,
Ring, happy bells, across the snow:
The year is going, let him go;
Ring out the false, ring in the true.
~Alfred, Lord Tennyson, 1850

Saturday, December 24, 2005

Happy Birthday Jesus!!!

For unto us a Child is born, Unto us a Son is given; And the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
Isaiah 9:5-7
And the angel answered and said to her, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Highest will overshadow you; therefore, also, that Holy One who is to be born will be called the Son of God.
Luke 1:34-36
Its hard to answer what Christmas means to me. On the face of it, it's more like a religious festival where I come from and a entertainment industry where I am at now. December 23rd and 24th happen to be the highest grossing days in the US, a phenomenon catching up now in India.

Its funny what blatant commercialism can do to anything. Just like the phenomenon called Valentine's day ... come to think of it I guess most of the media made holidays!!

To add some spice into the proceedings, its always good to put in some left verus right politicisation of the topic at hand. Taking political correctness to a new level, the liberal left decided to replace 'merry Christmas' with 'happy holidays'. I am yet to figure out the political wrongness of 'merry Christmas'!! Would it be wrong for people to wish me happy birthday just because my neighbour doesn't celebrate my birthday?? The Christian right was not far behind, they called for a boycott of any store that followed the left's 'liberal theology'. And now we know how wars start!

What more can I say ... and now on to some fun quotes
"Christmas is a time when kids tell Santa what they want and adults pay for it. Deficits are when adults tell the government what they want and their kids pay for it." Richard Lamm


"How many observe Christ's birthday! How few, his precepts! O! 'tis easier to keep holidays than commandments." Benjamin Franklin

"From a commercial point of view, if Christmas did not exist it would be necessary to invent it."

"In the old days, it was not called the Holiday Season; the Christians called it 'Christmas' and went to church; the Jews called it 'Hanukka' and went to synagogue; the atheists went to parties and drank. People passing each other on the street would say 'Merry Christmas!' or 'Happy Hanukka!' or (to the atheists) 'Look out for the wall!'"

Tuesday, December 20, 2005

The great leveler!

It's none other than education! The moment Eve bit off that fruit, education assumed the role of being the chief weapon in human hands. I know a lot of people would disagree. But whatever the power of the nuclear bomb, the pen is still mightier than the gun.

How come you say? The cold war is over and we know who the winner of it was. But now that uncle Sam is the undisputed big boy, there is a challenge at a new level ... the lack of qualified labour with Math and science knowledge!!! The onslaught of developing countries like China and India is on and no amount of defense spending can change that. The developing countries have figured it (and rightly so) that the only way to make the world a level playing field was to make education a priority. Being a alumni of the Indian education system, I can safely say that world class education may be a little way off but any education does make a difference. Indian's and Chinese may not have as many guns but they sure do have a lot of engineers and you know that "Engineers build the world".

Its not just the international arena where education seems to make a difference. Through out history, this scenario has be played out over and over again (history does repeat itself if you didn't know), one race/caste/class of people keep other race/caste/class of people down by denying them education. People have always used the lack of education as a method to keep the downtrodden down. Its not for nothing that the great criminal brains had more brains than brawns!

In the great Mosaic that is India, the caste and class distinction has only now been marred because of the rise in the literacy levels of the common people. Its not uncommon to see kids studying by the street light because of the lack of electricity at home. And I do personally know of families where the parents work 18 hour days so their kids can have an education and a better future. Education is a luxury to the really needy and taken for grated by the well-to-do.

Its hard for a person to fight for his right if he doesn't even know that he has rights. That's where education comes in! Education has really transformed the Indian society. I just went through the richest list of India an found that more than 60% of them had started from scratch. This would not have been possible in the Indian society's setup if not for education.

The more important affect of education is moral than financial. I have probably rambled on the caste system, dowry, segregation ... but the only effective antidote to these ills that I have found in my short life is Education. I know I am sounding like an used care salesman but the effect is there for all to see. The moral effect is not only seen in a developing environment like India but also in a developed environment like the good 'ole USA. Now that the developing countries are following the developed countries' formula, you see a slacking off from the top 5% richest people in the world, in that they don't think that a college education is worth it. They are just happy with their ability to play XBOX and use the IPOD. Ergo the rising economy of the third world. Not that I am complaining about a multi polar world.

I am not suggesting that education is the all encompassing solution to the world's evil. I would be a fool to think that, 'cause if that would be the case then the dowry and caste system in India would not exist among the educated. Which ofcourse is far from the truth more often than not. The dowry seems to increase with the amount of education that the person has. It is one of those quirks of human nature called greed I guess.

Inspite of all its potential it has failed to curb the basic human tendency to destroy. The same education that opened many people's eyes to segregation and castism also was a tool in the hands of racial and castist felons. The same education that helped cure sickness helped build the bomb. The education that made great minds like Gandhi also made Hitler.

But the fact remains that if a bonded laborer dreams of a better life, it would start with some education. Living in a country with almost 99% percent education it still amazes me how a country with 60% education survives.

I have had a few people talk to me about affirmative action in the US, the Indian equivalent of which is reservation. I do agree with the fundamental idea behind it but think that it could be implemented in a better way. But from what I have seen, I must say that it has made a difference good.

There is a fight going on in America about religion, more importantly intelligent design, in school. I would think the more important think would be what kind of education that kids are getting in school. I might not be that old but, I think I can safely say that education was not only supposed to teach us Math and Science but make us better and well rounded humans. I think schools now-a-days woefully lack on all counts specially the last one.

Now that I have rambled on the international and national effects of education, I am going to get personal. No its not about me but the slum kids that are coming to the after school program in Chennai, that I am lucky to be part of! Almost all of these kids parents are illiterate and are hoping for a better future out of the slums for their kids. And guess what they are betting on for their dreams to come true?? Education!!

The progress report that my dad gave me yesterday just lifted me up, we now have 6 class toppers and 7 who are second in their class. This is out of the 50 kids who come to the after school program regularly. I am just hoping that all of them would do as well. But it is a definite blessing to see them do so well.

I remember during my undergrad, there was this kid working for my dad, doing his undergrad just like me. He had to work 'cause his dad was a sanitation worker for the city and couldn't afford to pay for his education. Everytime I met him, it reminded me of all the opportunities that I and most of my friends took for granted.

Got some pictures for you from the christmas program that these kids put up on their own!!

"But if you ask what is the good of education in general, the answer is easy: that education makes good men, and that good men act nobly."


“Education makes a people easy to lead, but difficult to drive; easy to govern, but impossible to enslave.”


"To educate a person in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society."


Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.
- Albert Einstein


We shall one day learn to supersede politics by education. What we call our root-and-branch reforms of slavery, war, gambling, intemperance, is only medicating the symptoms. We must begin higher up, namely, in education.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson


Education is a better safeguard of liberty than a standing army. If we retrench the wages of the schoolmaster, we must raise those of the recruiting sergeant.
- Edward Everett


To penetrate and dissipate these clouds of darkness, the general mind must be strengthened by education.
- Thomas Jefferson


The highest result of education is tolerance.
- Helen Adams Keller

Thursday, December 15, 2005

Something different

Let me see if you can spot the difference in the website. I am hoping to rehaul the whole thing including the old with the new and something newer (Don't even know if that is a word!!). So this is probably the shortest post ever on this page!!! Comments are appreciated!!!

"The only perfect science is hind-sight"

Saturday, December 10, 2005

So much to ..... so little time






Have been busy over the last few weeks with a lot of things ... so as usual negleted this part of my life .... to get me started again, I've got a photo blog from my trip to florida for Katie's marriage!!!



"In the opinion of the world, marriage ends all, as it does in a comedy. The truth is precisely the opposite: it begins all."

Tuesday, November 15, 2005

O Success who art thou?

Its been a long time since a read something other than news articles or product specs. And it turned out to be the biography of Billy Graham, one of the only three people on my admiration list(Gandhi and Mother Teresa being the other) which off course doesn't include my idol. The character study of these three, shows the distinct yet similar goals they shared, the uplifting of people from being mere mortals to something better.

I have always wondered about the kind of motivation that turned ordinary men(women) to do extraordinary things. Hindsight has always been good ... but that does not provide for the strength that is needed to overcome seemingly insurmountable troubles! Would Gandhi have known that he would be called the father of the nation and inspire not just one nation to attain freedom? Would he have thought that when he decided to use peace instead of violence as a weapon, the sun would set on the British empire ? Its hard to imagine that kind of faith in oneself.

One of the qualities that made this group successful was their humility. Inspite of their stature in the world they always remained down to earth. Which brings me to the question of what is success ... success to me personally is not the amount of money you have or weather you have reached the pinnacle of your field of vocation. Success is affecting people's life ... I measure it in the lives that are affected by us. I guess it was obivious from my choices!!

None of these individuals are perfect, each had his one personal faults but that is what made them human enough like everyone of us. Making it plain that they had to overcome not only their own personal faults like everyone of us but also little bit to make the world a better place. I don't want to sound too sweet with all this assertion but the fact that such frail and weak people could affect so many people for the better is indeed a miracle.

I these times of instant celebrities and 15 minute fame, they stand out as the true celebrities.


They were people who created equality where there was a lot of inequality... unlike some that thought violence alone could do it, they were the voice of clarity, 'cause he who lives by the sword dies by the sword and an eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind. Ghandi worked to make the brown man his own master, 'cause he believed (and so do I) that men are not similar but they are equal!

Billy refused to preach to a segregated crowd in the south even when it was the norm, he worked to make to reach people behind the iron curtain. And in the world of made to order televangelists and godmen, he has maintained his dignity by staying true to his calling!

Mother Teresa worked to give dignity to people who didn't have anybody to stand up for them. They were not just in one country but everywhere ... 'cause they were the ones nobody cared about.

Its not often that we have people like these walk among. Though I would not say that or generation is worse than the ones before it ... still it would be nice to see more individuals take it upon themselves to be the beacon of hope to the hopeless...

A couple of days ago a friend of mine was debating with me about the importance of the change in the individual for the world to change. He was of the opinion (which seems to be the prevailingly opinion) that his changing does not make a iota of difference in this world. Its that kind of dejectedness that is the root of all problems. I once heard that "there are two kinds of people in the world, those who conform themselves to this world and those who conform the world to themselves and the progress of the world depends on the second type".

I just hope that I can affect for good atleast a small percentage of the people that these individuals touched.

"Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure."

Thursday, November 10, 2005

Cooking ...


I am a reformed man after my India trip. Before a few of you start snickering ... I am only talking about the part of me starting to cook!! Well putting on 10 pounds in a week will make any person start thinking about their heart and arteries. Does anybody realize how hard it is to cook specially good Indian food? You wouldn't believe the amount of preparation that goes into it. Now I know why men in India look for a bride who can cook. And before the feminist brigade get on my case let me reiterate that I do not discriminate against women who can't cook, but I do like a lady who can whip it up in the kitchen (hint hint).

Believe it or not it takes more than three rounds of grocery shopping before I have all the ingredients to make sambar (Curry to those who don't know 'Indian'(Tamil)). Even then the sheer amount of time and patience it takes to make the simplest side dish is mind boggling. Got to bow down to all the mom's out there !!! Also to the girl friends that make cookies for their boy friends and their boy friend's friends!!!

Frankly I ain't too bad at cooking only that I am too lazy for it. So far have been bad only on two of six times I have cooked. Before I forget a friendly warning to all attempting to cook Indian ... disable the smoke alarm. The first time I cooked it went off and I had to ripe it out to stop myself from going crazy. The day the put in a new one, I cooked again but this time I was prepared, so I was able to disconnect it without ripping it apart. So much for the smoke alarm! That reminded me of the story of when couple of fire engine's showed up to a Indian student's apartment at FSU because of the smoke coming out of his kitchen!! He was really whipping it up in the kitchen!

Now that my whole blog has spoken about how hard 'Indian' cooking and cooking in general is, just wanted to share with you all that my youth group has learned its first Tamil chorus which they are going to be performing this coming Sunday. But believe you me that its harder to teach monolingual people a different language than cooking (Indian cooking included)!

I have been quite irregular with updating this blog this month ... blame it all on work. Have been working weekends for the past two weeks and even this week. Though I then do get to spend the next two weekends with friends and family. Florida and California here I come!!!

On the topic of cooking ... I thought I would show you guys the real way to drink "tender" coconut water and eat the "tender" coconut, also show you city folks what a coconut tree looks like ... So here you go!!!




"Kissing don't last: cookery do!"

Monday, October 31, 2005

Over the hill ...

25 and single ... that's my profile from today onwards. Yes folks, I am over the hill of silver ... I already feel old enough to die (just kidding). Been a blast the past 25 years, oh yes they have been quite eventful (Just like everybody else's ... maybe not) with patches of uneventful, boring, mundaness.

Somebody said you don't count your life with the money or success you have attained but by the number of friends that you have. And if that is true then I am the most blessed of all men (or women) on earth. God has been most abundantly gracious and merciful to me through my short(or long) life . Not to forget unlike most people "the people I couldn't choose" (family and relatives) are out of this world.

What can I say ... I have the perfect life. Sure got ups and downs, but its definitely better than the next person's(atleast that's what I think). Wouldn't want to exchange it with anybody. Now that I have rambled on how blessed I feel, I think I should end the post ... (Or maybe because I have just run out of idea's), but you can't complain, its not everyday you turn 25 (its not everyday you turn anything).

At 21 you know you are old but still young enough to do stupid stuff and blame it on your age, at 25 you really can't blame it on anything or anybody. Which brings us to how do you know that you are old and over the hill? First sign is that you don't receive a single card on your birthday, a good sign most people have either forgotten or maybe they are just too broke from all the cards they have got you the previous years... also just an hint that maybe you should just get on with your life, 'cause whatever you might think its just another day in everybody's life ;). Oh ya no more birthday cake/party for you till you go really down the hill and have kids and they want to get something out of you!

Also 25 is that first time you can really look back at your life and see where you are going or atleast plan to go ... the first mile as some people would say. I wanted to retire at the age of 30 (Seriously) but as things are going retiring is not for me :). Atleast I got my master's degree, that is a very big step ... The best part is that even if I wanted to reminiscent on things I really don't have the time. I can't figure out how staring at a computer screen makes people tired but it does, specially if you are staring at it in the night. Last weekend was the beginning of a series of weekends that I have got to work. Can't complain though as long as I am getting paid for it.

Just a random thought ... I have always wondered how a wonderful baby as the one on top would turn into the scary man(I am 25!) that I have become.

Being scary apart ... 25 has lots of benefits ... lesser insurance premiums and the ability to rent a car without the underage fee ... gawd I hated that discrimination even though I scarcely used a rented car.

The one thing that I did learn is something I read in Ecclesiastes 1:2 " Vanity of vanities, all is vanity”", the more you want things the more you miss out on life. And this is what I consider the most important thing in life "PEOPLE". There is nothing else in life that is more important. It is so easy to get blinded (As I have a lot of times) by other things but there is nothing that can take the place of people ... they are important enough for Jesus to die on the cross for them.

Believe it or not, it too me quite a few years to understand the importance of being people centric (18 to be exact). The reason being that I had the worst case of shyness I have ever seen. I know its hard to believe for lots or at least most people who know me. I was what you call a chronically shy person, couldn't lift my head up when somebody from the opposite sex was around .. wouldn't speak to an unknown person ... even made my parents wonder if I should have been born as a girl!! And then it finally dawned on me (after a lot of deliberation of course) the people really don't have the time to be spending all their time on me, specially thinking about my walk or talk ... once I got through that epiphanic moment I was free of shyness or as I would like to call it 'I'ness. 'Cause what most people don't realise is that being shy makes you think more about yourself than others ... oxymoronic as it might sound, that in itself should tell you that people are not thinking about you and judging you!

But to be truthful, it was worth the wait (the wait to get over the shyness) or I wouldn't appreciate what God has given me!!

"At twenty we worry about what others think of us; at forty we don't care about what others think of us; at sixty we discover they haven't been thinking about us at all."

Monday, October 24, 2005

The kids ....

Well here is another photo blog from India. Some pictures of the kids that we are working with through the foundation (Falcon Foundation). My Church (Lake Crest Church) helped us get them some T-Shirts when I went to India this time. The first few pictures are me distributing the T shirts, the rest are at the after school that we have. Currently we have 50 kids coming to the after school from the 1st grade up till the 5th grade.













"Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day,
Teach him to fish and you feed him for life."

Tuesday, October 18, 2005

"pseudo-feminism"


Ok that's a word I came up with (At least I haven't heard it from anywhere else). So I was talking to this friend when I got to know about the fact that America has a higher population of girls to guys, that got me thinking ... how come India which has more males than females was lead by a woman(Indira Gandhi the one in the pic) for 15 of its 58 years of independence while "...land of the free and the home of the brave" hasn't had a woman leader in .... never. Doesn't it sound bogus when we talk about women's empowerment in the middle east when we are afraid to "really" empower them in the west! I am not even going to go into the glass ceiling ...

I guess this is where pseudo-feminism comes in ... in the name of gender equality all they got was only to sleep around and do drugs but no real equality. I still can't fathom how you couldn't have a woman leader when women are in majority ??? we complain about the minority Sunnis ruled over the majority Shias ... wonder if anybody is looking inside. And India being a male dominated society (We look down on women who smoke and drink ... and divorcees ...) still lets women be in seats of power ... the power behind our current central(federal) government is a lady. For that matter the president of two other easter countries (Sri Lanka and Phillipines) are women.

This is just food for thought ... for those who think that women are equal in the US. The Man just gives you some to take away everything ...

Wednesday, October 12, 2005

Married again ....

Well I thought this would be a better title than saying marriage 2 or marriage continued ... continuing on the topic of marriages ... either I am getting old or the world is getting older cause' it seems like everybody I know is getting married. Starting off with Katie's marriage next month ... I can only smile at the sheep being let to the slaughter. Jokes apart here is another dose of the pictures from back home. You must understand that this took place over a period of three days and four different functions, hence the various dresses! And do leave your comments, cause I know you are looking!
This is the family picture at the Groom's reception

The whole marriage bundle (brides' maids,maid of honour,groom's men,best man, flower girls ....) Usually you don't have the bride's maids and groom's men in our weddings... (just the best mand and the maid of honour)

The bride and groom at the church ...

The couple at the Groom's reception

Me and Kartik at the Groom's reception

Dad letting go ...

"The cousins" at the bride's reception

The wedding Cake

The wedding feast .... Sara what you doing man?

The feast at the groom's reception

Trying to show off my sisters!!!

Watch this place for more Pics from the "land of the tiger"...

"How do you look at the same face for the rest of your life ???? Beats me!"

Monday, October 10, 2005

Marriage...

No not mine ... as I have told my friends before, it would have to snow in Chennai before I hang myself ... oops sorry ... get married. I am still trying to get out of my jet lag(Its taking awefully long this time) so I thought I would go easy and make this a picture post of my sister's marriage.
Speaking at my sister's valthudal ceremony (Ceremony to bless and praise her)

The grooms family bringing the ceremonial gifts before the marriage

The bride's brother(Me ;)) welcoming the groom ...

The father of the bride and the mother ;)

The beauty queen

The Groom with the best man ...

Picture perfect ...

The groom entering the church with his coterie ...

The pretty bride's maids


Sara and Hussain's family at the reception

Dhinakaran Uncle felicitating the couple

Good old bharathanatayam...

Gayathri, Vanitha and Kirthi ....

Kirthi, Vishnu, Swapna and Shobi
Wondering about the different attires? Its all for the different functions that these Indian Marriages entail. I am having some diffuculties with the rest of the pictures so I guess I will have to continue on it tomorrow ... Enjoy these for now ...